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Final Worksheet
Cognitive Self Change
T or F
1. Cognitive means think or thinking.
2. Social Skills are the skills we use with other people.
3. Anger is a bodily reaction to something that happens around us and/or something
that happens within us.
4. Anger can be triggered y external events such as loss, rejection, or fear.
5. The three different personality types are: passive, aggressive, and assertive.
6. Anger is a direct result of our thoughts about something.
7. A person, situation or thing does not make you angry.
8. It is your thoughts about that person, situation, or thing that makes you angry.
9. Your body can let you know when you are about to get angry.
10. Controlling anger safely can include keeping your voice low, breathing slowly, think
before you act, going for a walk, talking it out, or shout in a safe place.
11. Our thoughts, feelings, attitudes, and beliefs control how we act.
12. Thinking reports help us to monitor out thoughts, feelings, and beliefs.
13. Attitudes and beliefs are the thinking behind out thinking.
14. New thinking will replace risk thoughts, risk feelings, and risk attitudes.
15. Identifying risk thoughts and replacing them will help us to manage anger and
resolve problems.
16. The conflict cycle shows us how we can take a problem and make it worse.
17. The first step in problem solving is stop and think.
18. Stop and think can interrupt the conflict cycle.
19. Stop and think has three steps: be quiet, get space, & calm down.
20. Problem solving includes problem description and setting goals.
21. Identifying choices and consequences for myself and others help me to solve
problems.
22. Choose-plan-do helps me to identify the very best choice for myself and others and
helps me make a plan.
23. After choosing the best consequence and making a plan, I do it and then I evaluate
how the choice and the plan worked.
Describe a situation in which you felt a conflict.
Thoughts:
Feelings:
Beliefs
Use stop and think to problem solve the following situations:
You are unjustly accused of stealing a computer at work.
Your girlfriend forgets to pick you up at work and she goes out with friends instead.
Your friend accuses you of stealing his cigarettes.
Using the social skill cards you have been given, describe how you would handle the
following situation:
You have been late to work the last several mornings. When you are late the whole crew
has to wait on you. You are late again this morning, when you get into the truck your boss
tells you he wants to talk to you at the end of the day. He dosen’t look too happy. When
you meet with him, he tells you he is sick and tired of you acting like an idiot and making the
crew wait every morning. He tells you he feels like kicking you butt. He says, if you are late
again that is it, you are fired. What social skill will you use when you meet with your boss.
You are new on the job and you have a question for your foreman. The foreman is busy
explaining how to do a procedure with two other employees. You think your question is
very important. What social skill will you use?
Your girlfriend thinks you have another girl because you have been getting home really late
every night. You don’t have another girl, but you have been hanging out with the guys and
shooting the bull. You are afraid your girlfriend won’t believe you when you tell her she is
the only girl for you. USE A SOCIAL SKILL to hand this.
You are at McDonalds and you give the clerk a $20 bill. Your food order is only $6.42
and the clerk gives you change for a $10 bill. When you explain to the clerk that you gave
him a $20 not a $10, the clerk says you are wrong and refuses to open the cash register and
check. You are really hungry, that is all the money you have, the clerk has been rude to
you, you are tired and have a headache. Using cognitive self change, problem solving, and
social skills, how will you handle this. Describe.
Draw the Conflict Cycle and explain how it works.
Explain how Stop and Think works.
List 4 ways you personally have used the skills you have been taught to manage anger and
make a bad situation better.
Is it a crime to pinch someone?
Who goes to jail when there is a domestic violence call?
Why should you be done with this program?
Cognitive Self Change
T or F
1. Cognitive means think or thinking.
2. Social Skills are the skills we use with other people.
3. Anger is a bodily reaction to something that happens around us and/or something
that happens within us.
4. Anger can be triggered y external events such as loss, rejection, or fear.
5. The three different personality types are: passive, aggressive, and assertive.
6. Anger is a direct result of our thoughts about something.
7. A person, situation or thing does not make you angry.
8. It is your thoughts about that person, situation, or thing that makes you angry.
9. Your body can let you know when you are about to get angry.
10. Controlling anger safely can include keeping your voice low, breathing slowly, think
before you act, going for a walk, talking it out, or shout in a safe place.
11. Our thoughts, feelings, attitudes, and beliefs control how we act.
12. Thinking reports help us to monitor out thoughts, feelings, and beliefs.
13. Attitudes and beliefs are the thinking behind out thinking.
14. New thinking will replace risk thoughts, risk feelings, and risk attitudes.
15. Identifying risk thoughts and replacing them will help us to manage anger and
resolve problems.
16. The conflict cycle shows us how we can take a problem and make it worse.
17. The first step in problem solving is stop and think.
18. Stop and think can interrupt the conflict cycle.
19. Stop and think has three steps: be quiet, get space, & calm down.
20. Problem solving includes problem description and setting goals.
21. Identifying choices and consequences for myself and others help me to solve
problems.
22. Choose-plan-do helps me to identify the very best choice for myself and others and
helps me make a plan.
23. After choosing the best consequence and making a plan, I do it and then I evaluate
how the choice and the plan worked.
Describe a situation in which you felt a conflict.
Thoughts:
Feelings:
Beliefs
Use stop and think to problem solve the following situations:
You are unjustly accused of stealing a computer at work.
Your girlfriend forgets to pick you up at work and she goes out with friends instead.
Your friend accuses you of stealing his cigarettes.
Using the social skill cards you have been given, describe how you would handle the
following situation:
You have been late to work the last several mornings. When you are late the whole crew
has to wait on you. You are late again this morning, when you get into the truck your boss
tells you he wants to talk to you at the end of the day. He dosen’t look too happy. When
you meet with him, he tells you he is sick and tired of you acting like an idiot and making the
crew wait every morning. He tells you he feels like kicking you butt. He says, if you are late
again that is it, you are fired. What social skill will you use when you meet with your boss.
You are new on the job and you have a question for your foreman. The foreman is busy
explaining how to do a procedure with two other employees. You think your question is
very important. What social skill will you use?
Your girlfriend thinks you have another girl because you have been getting home really late
every night. You don’t have another girl, but you have been hanging out with the guys and
shooting the bull. You are afraid your girlfriend won’t believe you when you tell her she is
the only girl for you. USE A SOCIAL SKILL to hand this.
You are at McDonalds and you give the clerk a $20 bill. Your food order is only $6.42
and the clerk gives you change for a $10 bill. When you explain to the clerk that you gave
him a $20 not a $10, the clerk says you are wrong and refuses to open the cash register and
check. You are really hungry, that is all the money you have, the clerk has been rude to
you, you are tired and have a headache. Using cognitive self change, problem solving, and
social skills, how will you handle this. Describe.
Draw the Conflict Cycle and explain how it works.
Explain how Stop and Think works.
List 4 ways you personally have used the skills you have been taught to manage anger and
make a bad situation better.
Is it a crime to pinch someone?
Who goes to jail when there is a domestic violence call?
Why should you be done with this program?
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