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I have a client who is in a
domestic violence situation,
what can I do to help?:
domestic violence situation,
what can I do to help?:
Dear Perplexed,,
This requires you to become her support not her
parent. In other words, if you tell her to leave him,
don't let him in, etc., she will cut you off. It is
important to be there for her as a support person.
Instead of telling her to kick him out, talk with her
about self care, make her aware that you will be
there no matter what her choices, and help to to
develop a safety plan. After building this trust, you
can begin the slow process of education.
Educating her about domestic violence and what
options she has available to her. DO NOT
PROVIDE COUPLES THERAPY OR
COUNSELING. This can be very dangerous for
her. Things said in the session can become
grounds for battle when they return home.
Educate yourself about domestic violence, the
cycle of violence, why they stay, the impact on
children, learned helplessness, and why leaving
the abuser is the most dangerous time for the
victim and the children.
Good Luck,
Pat
This requires you to become her support not her
parent. In other words, if you tell her to leave him,
don't let him in, etc., she will cut you off. It is
important to be there for her as a support person.
Instead of telling her to kick him out, talk with her
about self care, make her aware that you will be
there no matter what her choices, and help to to
develop a safety plan. After building this trust, you
can begin the slow process of education.
Educating her about domestic violence and what
options she has available to her. DO NOT
PROVIDE COUPLES THERAPY OR
COUNSELING. This can be very dangerous for
her. Things said in the session can become
grounds for battle when they return home.
Educate yourself about domestic violence, the
cycle of violence, why they stay, the impact on
children, learned helplessness, and why leaving
the abuser is the most dangerous time for the
victim and the children.
Good Luck,
Pat
Dear Pat,
I have a client who does very well until
her boyfriend comes home from
prison. All therapy stops and she
resumes a relationship with this man
that always leads to her being
battered by this man. What can I do
to help?
Perplexed
I have a client who does very well until
her boyfriend comes home from
prison. All therapy stops and she
resumes a relationship with this man
that always leads to her being
battered by this man. What can I do
to help?
Perplexed
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